{"id":388,"date":"2022-08-04T12:06:12","date_gmt":"2022-08-04T09:06:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/?p=388"},"modified":"2022-08-21T19:20:09","modified_gmt":"2022-08-21T16:20:09","slug":"episodul-11-trebuie-conflict","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/episodul-11-trebuie-conflict\/","title":{"rendered":"Episodul 11 &#8211; Trebuie = Conflict"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"boldgrid-section\">\n<div class=\"container\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"boldgrid-section\">\n<div class=\"container\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"boldgrid-section\">\n<div class=\"container\">\n<div class=\"row\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"389\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/episodul-11-trebuie-conflict\/should-conflict\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Should-Conflict.png\" data-orig-size=\"960,720\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Should = Conflict\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Should-Conflict-300x225.png\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Should-Conflict.png\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\" class=\"bg-img bg-img-rounded bg-img-border-thin aligncenter wp-image-389 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Should-Conflict.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"960\" height=\"720\" srcset=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Should-Conflict.png 960w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Should-Conflict-300x225.png 300w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Should-Conflict-768x576.png 768w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Should-Conflict-250x188.png 250w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Should-Conflict-550x413.png 550w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Should-Conflict-800x600.png 800w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Should-Conflict-240x180.png 240w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Should-Conflict-400x300.png 400w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Should-Conflict-667x500.png 667w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 960px) 100vw, 960px\" \/><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 75px; padding-bottom: 75px;\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\">Ascult\u0103 acest episod aici, sau cite\u0219te mai jos<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-playlist wp-audio-playlist wp-playlist-light\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"wp-playlist-current-item\"><\/div>\n\t\t<audio controls=\"controls\" preload=\"none\" width=\"640\"\n\t\t\t><\/audio>\n\t<div class=\"wp-playlist-next\"><\/div>\n\t<div class=\"wp-playlist-prev\"><\/div>\n\t<noscript>\n\t<ol>\n\t\t<li><a href='https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Trebuie-Conflict.mp3'>Trebuie = Conflict<\/a><\/li>\t<\/ol>\n\t<\/noscript>\n\t<script type=\"application\/json\" class=\"wp-playlist-script\">{\"type\":\"audio\",\"tracklist\":true,\"tracknumbers\":true,\"images\":false,\"artists\":false,\"tracks\":[{\"src\":\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Trebuie-Conflict.mp3\",\"type\":\"audio\/mpeg\",\"title\":\"Trebuie = Conflict\",\"caption\":\"\",\"description\":\"\\\"Trebuie = Conflict\\\". Released: 2022.\",\"meta\":{\"album\":\"Episodul 11\",\"year\":\"2022\",\"length_formatted\":\"5:49\"},\"image\":{\"src\":\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-includes\/images\/media\/audio.svg\",\"width\":48,\"height\":64},\"thumb\":{\"src\":\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-includes\/images\/media\/audio.svg\",\"width\":48,\"height\":64}}]}<\/script>\n<\/div>\n\t\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 75px; padding-bottom: 22px;\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p>Zeul trebuie este responsabil pentru o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de suferin\u021b\u0103 \u00een via\u021ba ta, iar un mod foarte direct prin care \u00ee\u021bi provoac\u0103 durere este activarea instinctului de supravie\u021buire, de lupt\u0103 sau fug\u0103.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">De exemplu, dac\u0103 prive\u0219ti la televizor, vei vedea doi oameni, politicieni, care aparent \u201ediscut\u0103\u201d ceva. S\u0103 spunem c\u0103 vorbesc despre partide, despre alegerile urm\u0103toare. Care este un posibil dialog intre cele dou\u0103 personaje de pe ecranul dreptunghiular?<\/p>\n<p>Persoana 1: \u201ePartidul meu a \u00eenfiin\u021bat un num\u0103r mare de slujbe noi\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Persoana 2: \u201eJoburi noi da, dar cu salar minim. Ar trebui s\u0103 investim \u00een educa\u021bie, s\u0103 atragem firme de inteligent\u0103.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Persoana 1: \u201eTrebuie prima oar\u0103 s\u0103 gestionam \u0219omajul, apoi putem s\u0103&#8230;\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Persoana 2: \u201eBa nu, ar trebui acum f\u0103cu\u021bi ace\u0219ti pa\u0219i&#8230;\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Persoana 1: \u201eNu se poate, trebuie s\u0103&#8230;\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Observi cum \u201ediscu\u021bia\u201d intre cei doi se inflameaz\u0103, fiecare \u0219tie ce \u201etrebuie\u201d. Dup\u0103 cum \u00ee\u021bi imaginezi, acest dialog nu mai este \u201ediscu\u021bie\u201d, ci s-a transformat \u00een conflict: fiecare interlocutor \u00ee\u0219i ia rolul de zeu atot\u0219tiutor, care \u201e\u0219tie ce trebuie\u201d s\u0103 fac\u0103&#8230; cel\u0103lalt. Care dintre cei doi va ceda? Nici unul nu va ceda, pentru c\u0103 am\u00e2ndoi \u201e\u0219tiu ce trebuie\u201d, am\u00e2ndoi au acces la \u201eadev\u0103r\u201d, \u0219i am\u00e2ndoi vor s\u0103 \u00eel conving\u0103, de fapt s\u0103 \u00eel for\u021beze pe cel\u0103lalt s\u0103 accepte varianta sa.<\/p>\n<p>Cui dintre noi \u00eei place s\u0103 fie for\u021bat s\u0103 accepte varianta altcuiva?<\/p>\n<p>Un exemplu mult mai scurt \u0219i poate mai direct:<\/p>\n<p>Mama 1: \u201eCopilul \u00abtrebuie\u00bb vaccinat\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Mama 2: \u201eCopilul nu \u00abtrebuie\u00bb vaccinat\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Ei bine, ce crezi c\u0103 se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla intre aceste dou\u0103 persoane? Crezi c\u0103 vor spune: \u201eAh, acum \u00een\u021beleg punctul t\u0103u de vedere, voi face a\u0219a cum zici tu\u201d? Bine\u00een\u021beles c\u0103 nu vor ajunge la un punct comun \u2013 singurul lucru ce se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla intre ele va fi un conflict mai mult sau mai pu\u021bin deschis, \u00eempreun\u0103 cu b\u00e2rfele aferente.<\/p>\n<p>Un alt exemplu, doi oameni c\u0103s\u0103tori\u021bi, au copil de doi ani. Cei trei merg la plimbare, \u00een Martie \u2013 este soare, dar bate v\u00e2ntul. \u00centrebarea este cu ce haine s\u0103 \u00eel \u00eembrace pe cel mic. Fiecare dintre p\u0103rin\u021bi \u0219tie cate haine \u201etrebuie\u201d s\u0103 poarte copilul, fiecare \u00eel critic\u0103 pe cellalt:<\/p>\n<p>El: \u201eE prea cald afar\u0103, \u00abtrebuia\u00bb s\u0103 \u00eel \u00eembraci mai sub\u021bire\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Ea: \u201eNu \u0219tii tu, \u00abtrebuie\u00bb s\u0103 aib\u0103 f\u00e2\u0219ul pe el\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Peste \u00eenc\u0103 un minut cei doi so\u021bi sunt gata s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i dea \u00een cap. Fiecare \u201e\u0219tie ce trebuie\u201d, fiecare dore\u0219te s\u0103 \u00eel for\u021beze pe cel\u0103lalt s\u0103 accepte varianta sa.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">De acum \u00eenainte \u00ee\u021bi vei orienta aten\u021bia c\u0103tre cei din jurul t\u0103u \u0219i vei analiza ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 c\u00e2nd oamenii vorbesc cu \u201etrebuie\u201d. Intre colegi sau \u00een familie, observi cat de des folosesc oamenii cuv\u00e2ntul \u201etrebuie\u201d, iar apoi observi ce simte fiecare, \u0219i cat de repede ajung ei la conflict.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">De departe, cea mai mare surs\u0103 de conflict \u0219i nefericire este folosirea cuv\u00e2ntului \u201etrebuie\u201d. Dup\u0103 ce \u00ee\u021bi direc\u021bionezi aten\u021bia c\u0103tre num\u0103ratul de cate ori apare \u201etrebuie\u201d \u00een propozi\u021biile oamenilor, vei observa c\u0103 aproape nu pot s\u0103 formuleze o propozi\u021bie f\u0103r\u0103 acest cuv\u00e2nt distrug\u0103tor. Cred c\u0103 vei z\u00e2mbi s\u0103 auzi oameni adul\u021bi, care au un vocabular at\u00e2t de s\u0103rac, redus la \u201etrebuie s\u0103 faci aia\u201d, \u201etrebuie s\u0103 fac cealalt\u0103\u201d, \u201ear trebui ca&#8230;\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Zeul Trebuie aduce conflictul imediat \u00een via\u021ba noastr\u0103, \u0219i automat activeaz\u0103 pe prietenul s\u0103u. Care este prietenul s\u0103u? \u00cel \u0219tii deja, \u0219i vorbim despre el \u00een modulul urm\u0103tor. 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