{"id":409,"date":"2022-08-14T12:34:21","date_gmt":"2022-08-14T09:34:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/?p=409"},"modified":"2022-08-21T19:18:47","modified_gmt":"2022-08-21T16:18:47","slug":"episodul-13-modelul-abc","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/episodul-13-modelul-abc\/","title":{"rendered":"Episodul 13 &#8211; Modelul ABC"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"boldgrid-section\">\n<div class=\"container\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"boldgrid-section\">\n<div class=\"container\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"boldgrid-section\">\n<div class=\"container\">\n<div class=\"row\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"411\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/episodul-13-modelul-abc\/abc-model-abc\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/ABC-Model-ABC.png\" data-orig-size=\"960,720\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"ABC Model &amp;#8211; ABC\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/ABC-Model-ABC-300x225.png\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/ABC-Model-ABC.png\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\" class=\"bg-img bg-img-rounded bg-img-border-thin aligncenter wp-image-411 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/ABC-Model-ABC.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"960\" height=\"720\" srcset=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/ABC-Model-ABC.png 960w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/ABC-Model-ABC-300x225.png 300w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/ABC-Model-ABC-768x576.png 768w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/ABC-Model-ABC-250x188.png 250w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/ABC-Model-ABC-550x413.png 550w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/ABC-Model-ABC-800x600.png 800w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/ABC-Model-ABC-240x180.png 240w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/ABC-Model-ABC-400x300.png 400w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/ABC-Model-ABC-667x500.png 667w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 960px) 100vw, 960px\" \/><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 75px; padding-bottom: 75px;\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\">Ascult\u0103 acest episod aici, sau cite\u0219te mai jos<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-playlist wp-audio-playlist wp-playlist-light\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"wp-playlist-current-item\"><\/div>\n\t\t<audio controls=\"controls\" preload=\"none\" width=\"640\"\n\t\t\t><\/audio>\n\t<div class=\"wp-playlist-next\"><\/div>\n\t<div class=\"wp-playlist-prev\"><\/div>\n\t<noscript>\n\t<ol>\n\t\t<li><a href='https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Modelul-ABC.mp3'>Modelul ABC<\/a><\/li>\t<\/ol>\n\t<\/noscript>\n\t<script type=\"application\/json\" class=\"wp-playlist-script\">{\"type\":\"audio\",\"tracklist\":true,\"tracknumbers\":true,\"images\":false,\"artists\":false,\"tracks\":[{\"src\":\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Modelul-ABC.mp3\",\"type\":\"audio\/mpeg\",\"title\":\"Modelul ABC\",\"caption\":\"\",\"description\":\"\\\"Modelul ABC\\\". Released: 2022.\",\"meta\":{\"album\":\"Episodul 13\",\"year\":\"2022\",\"length_formatted\":\"8:10\"},\"image\":{\"src\":\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-includes\/images\/media\/audio.svg\",\"width\":48,\"height\":64},\"thumb\":{\"src\":\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-includes\/images\/media\/audio.svg\",\"width\":48,\"height\":64}}]}<\/script>\n<\/div>\n\t\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 75px; padding-bottom: 22px;\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\">Mergi cu ma\u0219ina pe autostrada \u0219i persoana din fa\u021b\u0103 schimb\u0103 banda f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 semnalizeze, pun\u00e2ndu-\u021bi \u021bie via\u021ba \u00een pericol. Peste c\u00e2teva secunde face o dep\u0103\u0219ire amenin\u021b\u0103toare care risc\u0103 s\u0103 creeze un carambol de accidente. Ce sim\u021bi despre acel \u0219ofer \u0219i ce faci? Ce spui despre el? Probabil spui c\u0103 \u201ete enerveaz\u0103\u201d acel \u0219ofer, \u201ec\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi strica ziua\u201d, \u0219i ce i-ai face tu dac\u0103 ai putea.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Noi tindem s\u0103 credem c\u0103 un eveniment extern, sau o persoan\u0103 poate s\u0103 ne declan\u0219eze emo\u021bii \u2013 acest lucru este, bine\u00een\u021beles, fals. Ne g\u00e2ndim la enervare \u0219i furie ca emo\u021bii consecin\u021b\u0103, notate cu litera C, \u0219i numim litera A elementul activator, \u0219ofatul necugetat. Urm\u00e2nd psihologia popular\u0103, cea de la televizor, credem c\u0103 litera C, emo\u021biile de furie \u0219i enervare sunt consecin\u021be la elementul activator A, \u0219ofatul. Dar c\u00e2t de adev\u0103rat este asta? Dac\u0103 asta ar fi adev\u0103rat, \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 toate persoanele de pe planet\u0103 ar sim\u021bi acelea\u0219i consecin\u021be C. Dar se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 asta a\u0219a? To\u021bi omenii simt acelea\u0219i consecin\u021be C furie \u0219i enervare la elementul activator A?<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Probabil \u0219i tu cuno\u0219ti persoane care reac\u021bioneaz\u0103 diferit la \u0219ofatul periculos al altuia: unii oameni reac\u021bioneaz\u0103 prin furie, al\u021bii prin surprindere, al\u021bii prin fric\u0103, al\u021bii neutru, al\u021bii aleg s\u0103 r\u00e2d\u0103 ca metod\u0103 protectiv\u0103. Asta ne arat\u0103 c\u0103 elementul activator A nu determin\u0103 consecin\u021bele C. Ceva lipse\u0219te \u00eentre A \u0219i C. Acel ceva este litera B, \u00een engleza Beliefs, iar \u00een rom\u00e2n\u0103 Credin\u021be.<\/p>\n<p>Litera A, activarea, nu determina consecin\u021bele C, ci sistemul nostru de credin\u021be, litera B, ne creeaz\u0103 emo\u021biile \u0219i g\u00e2ndurile pe care le experiment\u0103m ca \u0219i consecin\u021be. \u00cen\u021belegi?<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">\u00cen cazul nostru, dac\u0103 o persoan\u0103 are credin\u021ba B c\u0103 toat\u0103 lumea \u201etrebuie\u201d s\u0103 semnalizeze tot timpul, atunci v\u0103z\u00e2nd c\u0103 nu se \u00eendepline\u0219te aceast\u0103 credin\u021b\u0103, explodeaz\u0103 \u00een furie. Dac\u0103 o alt\u0103 persoan\u0103 are credin\u021ba B c\u0103 \u0219oferul periculos este \u00eencep\u0103tor \u0219i de aceea face gre\u0219eli mai multe, atunci s-ar putea s\u0103 \u00eel ierte pe \u0219ofer \u0219i s\u0103 simt\u0103 consecin\u021bele C: bl\u00e2nde\u021be, \u00een\u021belegere, calm. Observi cum acela\u0219i \u0219ofer care face acelea\u0219i gre\u0219eli este privit foarte diferit de ceilal\u021bi membri ai traficului.<\/p>\n<p>Asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 fiecare dintre noi avem o perspectiv\u0103 diferit\u0103 asupra realit\u0103\u021bii, c\u0103 fiecare dintre noi percepem realitatea diferit, \u0219i c\u0103 sim\u021bim \u0219i reac\u021bion\u0103m diferit la ea.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Un alt exemplu, doi oameni care au de vorbit \u00een public \u00eentr-o sal\u0103 cu c\u00e2teva sute de oameni. Acesta este elementul activator A. Ca \u0219i consecin\u021be, prima persoan\u0103 simte emo\u021bia de frica \u0219i panic\u0103, iar a doua persoan\u0103 simte calm \u0219i relaxare. Cum pot dou\u0103 persoane care au acela\u0219i element activator A, s\u0103 simt\u0103 at\u00e2t de diferit C? Acest lucru este foarte simplu explicat prin intermediarul B, sistemul de credin\u021be. Prima persoan\u0103 are credin\u021be perfec\u021bioniste, crede c\u0103 \u201etrebuie\u201d s\u0103 exceleze la vorbitul \u00een public, altfel nu are valoare. A doua persoan\u0103 are credin\u021be realiste, crede c\u0103 spectatorii sunt mult mai preocupa\u021bi de mesaj, dec\u00e2t de cine \u0219i cum \u00eel exprim\u0103. Credin\u021bele B creeaz\u0103 consecin\u021bele C: credin\u021ba perfec\u021bionist\u0103 exprimat\u0103 prin \u201etrebuie\u201d, \u00eei activeaz\u0103 primei persoane instinctul de supravie\u021buire \u0219i va avea un atac de panic\u0103. Credin\u021ba realist\u0103 \u0219i optimist\u0103 a persoanei a doua va avea ca \u0219i consecin\u021b\u0103 deta\u0219area \u0219i calmul.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Iat\u0103 cum dou\u0103 persoane, puse \u00een fa\u021ba aceluia\u0219i eveniment activator A, vor sim\u021bi diferit, vor avea consecin\u021be diferite C. Sistemul de credin\u021be B ne creeaz\u0103 realitatea, din cauza sa ne enerv\u0103m sau ne relax\u0103m, procrastin\u0103m sau cre\u0103m, url\u0103m sau deschidem urechea \u0219i sufletul c\u0103tre ascultare.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Modelul acesta, ABC, \u00ee\u021bi d\u0103 r\u0103spunsul la \u00eentrebarea pe care ti-ai adresat-o de multe ori: <em>de ce pe unii nu \u00eei deranjeaz\u0103 ce m\u0103 deranjeaz\u0103 pe mine<\/em>? Acum \u00een\u021belegi r\u0103spunsul, pentru c\u0103 fiecare dintre noi are un alt sistem de credin\u021be B, fiecare prive\u0219te altfel evenimentele sau persoanele activatoare A.<\/p>\n<p>Poate chiar ai avut certuri cu partenerul de via\u021b\u0103, mama sau copiii despre un lucru pe care tu \u00eel vezi \u00eentr-un mod, iar ei \u00een altul. Acum \u00een\u021belegi c\u0103 chiar dac\u0103 ai credin\u021be puternice despre un lucru, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 sunt adev\u0103rate, sunt doar sistemul t\u0103u de credin\u021be B, construit de c\u0103tre creierul t\u0103u. Creierul so\u021bului, al soacrei \u0219i al copiilor va construi mereu alte sisteme de credin\u021ba B, subiective fiec\u0103ruia. Dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 termini un conflict c\u00e2t mai repede, atunci ce te ajut\u0103 nu este s\u0103 \u00eei for\u021bezi sa aib\u0103 sistemul t\u0103u de credin\u021be B, ci s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi de ce cred ei ceea ce cred, adic\u0103 care este sistemul lor de credin\u021be B. Odat\u0103 ce le \u00een\u021belegi credin\u021bele, po\u021bi s\u0103 lucrezi cu ele, \u0219i s\u0103 ajunge\u021bi la un compromis. C\u00e2nd lucrezi cu credin\u021bele lor B, \u0219i nu \u00eencerci sa \u00eei schimbi, atunci \u00eei respec\u021bi, iar c\u00e2nd \u00eei respec\u021bi atunci po\u021bi comunica cu ei \u00een mod eficient, \u0219i pute\u021bi s\u0103 ajungi la o solu\u021bie satisf\u0103c\u0103toare pentru to\u021bi.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Anxietatea presupune a avea un sistem de credin\u021be B mai nes\u0103n\u0103tos, unul \u00een care frica de viitor \u00eel paralizeaz\u0103 pe creier \u00een a crea pove\u0219ti mai pozitive \u0219i optimiste. Al\u021bi oameni reu\u0219esc s\u0103 aib\u0103 o via\u021b\u0103 fericit\u0103 pentru c\u0103 au credin\u021be mai s\u0103n\u0103toase dec\u00e2t noi, sau m\u0103car mai relaxate. Dac\u0103 \u0219tim modelul ABC al perspectivei noastre asupra realit\u0103\u021bii, atunci ce putem face s\u0103 suferim mai pu\u021bin, s\u0103 avem consecin\u021be C mai eficiente pentru satisfac\u021bia vie\u021bii noastre?<\/p>\n<p>R\u0103spunsul \u00eel g\u0103se\u0219ti \u00een modulul urm\u0103tor.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 19px; padding-bottom: 38px;\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\"><a href=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"415\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/?attachment_id=415\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header.png\" data-orig-size=\"1024,493\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Stop Anxietate Header\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-300x144.png\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header.png\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-415 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"493\" srcset=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header.png 1024w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-300x144.png 300w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-768x370.png 768w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-250x120.png 250w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-550x265.png 550w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-800x385.png 800w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-374x180.png 374w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-623x300.png 623w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 4px; padding-bottom: 6px;\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\">Distribuie episodul unei persoane dragi, care sufer\u0103 de anxietate<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ascult\u0103 acest episod aici, sau cite\u0219te mai jos Mergi cu ma\u0219ina pe autostrada \u0219i persoana din fa\u021b\u0103 schimb\u0103 banda f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 semnalizeze, pun\u00e2ndu-\u021bi \u021bie via\u021ba \u00een pericol. 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