{"id":515,"date":"2022-08-25T15:52:20","date_gmt":"2022-08-25T12:52:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/?p=515"},"modified":"2022-08-25T15:52:20","modified_gmt":"2022-08-25T12:52:20","slug":"episodul-16-triunghiul-dramei-salvatorul","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/episodul-16-triunghiul-dramei-salvatorul\/","title":{"rendered":"Episodul 16 &#8211; Triunghiul dramei &#8211; Salvatorul"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"boldgrid-section\">\n<div class=\"container\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"boldgrid-section\">\n<div class=\"container\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"boldgrid-section\">\n<div class=\"container\">\n<div class=\"row\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"491\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/episodul-15-triunghiul-dramei-abuzatorul\/drama-triangle-persecutor-2\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Persecutor.png\" data-orig-size=\"960,720\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Drama Triangle &amp;#8211; Persecutor\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Persecutor-300x225.png\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Persecutor.png\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\" class=\"bg-img bg-img-rounded bg-img-border-thin aligncenter wp-image-491 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Persecutor.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"960\" height=\"720\" srcset=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Persecutor.png 960w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Persecutor-300x225.png 300w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Persecutor-768x576.png 768w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Persecutor-250x188.png 250w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Persecutor-550x413.png 550w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Persecutor-800x600.png 800w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Persecutor-240x180.png 240w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Persecutor-400x300.png 400w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Persecutor-667x500.png 667w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 960px) 100vw, 960px\" \/><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 75px; padding-bottom: 75px;\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\">Ascult\u0103 acest episod aici, sau cite\u0219te mai jos<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-playlist wp-audio-playlist wp-playlist-light\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"wp-playlist-current-item\"><\/div>\n\t\t<audio controls=\"controls\" preload=\"none\" width=\"640\"\n\t\t\t><\/audio>\n\t<div class=\"wp-playlist-next\"><\/div>\n\t<div class=\"wp-playlist-prev\"><\/div>\n\t<noscript>\n\t<ol>\n\t\t<li><a href='https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Triunghiul-dramei-Salvatorul.mp3'>Triunghiul dramei - Salvatorul<\/a><\/li>\t<\/ol>\n\t<\/noscript>\n\t<script type=\"application\/json\" class=\"wp-playlist-script\">{\"type\":\"audio\",\"tracklist\":true,\"tracknumbers\":true,\"images\":false,\"artists\":false,\"tracks\":[{\"src\":\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Triunghiul-dramei-Salvatorul.mp3\",\"type\":\"audio\/mpeg\",\"title\":\"Triunghiul dramei - Salvatorul\",\"caption\":\"\",\"description\":\"\\\"Triunghiul dramei - Salvatorul\\\". Released: 2022.\",\"meta\":{\"album\":\"Episodul 16\",\"year\":\"2022\",\"length_formatted\":\"4:43\"},\"image\":{\"src\":\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-includes\/images\/media\/audio.svg\",\"width\":48,\"height\":64},\"thumb\":{\"src\":\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-includes\/images\/media\/audio.svg\",\"width\":48,\"height\":64}}]}<\/script>\n<\/div>\n\t\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 75px; padding-bottom: 22px;\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\">Salvatorul este tot \u00een pozi\u021bia de putere, ca \u0219i abuzatorul, \u0219i modul s\u0103u de exprimare este de fals\u0103 sus\u021binere, adic\u0103 sus\u021binerea pe termen scurt cu nevoia e\u0219u\u0103rii pe termen lung. De exemplu, dac\u0103 o victim\u0103 se pl\u00e2nge salvatorului despre rela\u021bia cu so\u021bul, salvatorul va lua mereu pozi\u021bia victimei \u201eda, ai \u00abdreptate\u00bb\u201d, \u201eeste \u00abcorect\u00bb s\u0103 te enervezi\u201d, \u201etu ai \u00abadev\u0103rul\u00bb\u201d, \u0219i o face \u00een astfel mod \u00eenc\u00e2t victima s\u0103 se re\u00eentoarc\u0103 mereu la salvator.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\"><em>Inevitabil<\/em>, salvatorul ajunge la datul de sfaturi: \u201ear \u00abtrebui\u00bb s\u0103&#8230;\u201d, \u201ear \u00abtrebui\u00bb s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi iei bagajele \u0219i s\u0103 pleci\u201d, \u201ear \u00abtrebui\u00bb s\u0103 \u00eei spui \u00een fa\u021b\u0103 ceea ce sim\u021bi\u201d. Solu\u021biile salvatorului par intuitive pentru victim\u0103, dar, de fapt, sunt <strong><em>solu\u021bii capcan\u0103<\/em><\/strong>, care func\u021bioneaz\u0103 pe termen scurt, dar pe termen lung au consecin\u021be mult mai grave. Salvatorul se asigur\u0103, incon\u0219tient, c\u0103 victima va avea necazuri \u0219i mai mari, iar acesta este modul prin care \u00ee\u0219i poate men\u021bine rolul de salvator.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"\">\n<p class=\"\">Salvatorul nu poate exista, dac\u0103 victima se vindec\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"\">C\u00e2nd vorbe\u0219te despre sine, salvatorul crede c\u0103 \u201edoar \u00eencerc s\u0103 ajut pe al\u021bii\u201d, \u201enu fac nici un r\u0103u nim\u0103nui\u201d. Salvatorii, la fel ca \u0219i abuzatorii \u0219i victimele, nu sunt con\u0219tien\u021bi de rolurile pe care le joac\u0103. Folosesc un limbaj incredibil de manipulativ, asemenea terori\u0219tilor \u0219i violatorilor: \u201edac\u0103 faci cum spun eu, totul va fi \u00abbine\u00bb\u201d, care \u00eenseamn\u0103: \u201e\u00abtrebuie\u00bb s\u0103 faci cum spun eu, dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 fie \u00abbine\u00bb\u201d.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Ironic, salvatorul nu are grij\u0103 de via\u021ba sa, dar are sfaturi nelimitate despre cum ar \u201etrebui\u201d <strong><em>tu<\/em><\/strong> s\u0103 reac\u021bionezi \u0219i s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi tr\u0103ie\u0219ti via\u021ba. Noi, victimele, credem c\u0103 salvatorul este o persoan\u0103 pozitiv\u0103 \u00een via\u021ba noastr\u0103, dar dac\u0103 ar fi s\u0103 \u00eel caracteriz\u0103m ar fi: catalizator, pain reliever, \u021bine victima dependent\u0103, te face s\u0103 te sim\u021bi bine <strong><em>temporar<\/em><\/strong>, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 rezolvi problema, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 faci fa\u021b\u0103 problemei reale.<\/p>\n<p>Cel mai u\u0219or mod de a te salva, este s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi spun\u0103 c\u0103 to\u021bi ceilal\u021bi sunt de vin\u0103: so\u021bul (nu tu) este de vin\u0103, copiii (nu tu) sunt de vin\u0103, colegii, \u0219eful, etc. Tu <em>niciodat\u0103<\/em> nu ai nici o vin\u0103. Astfel, salvatorul te \u021bine \u00eentr-o bul\u0103 de necunoa\u0219tere, \u00een care crezi c\u0103 salvatorul este (singurul) prieten al t\u0103u, \u0219i to\u021bi ceilal\u021bi sunt \u00eempotriva ta.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">C\u00e2nd este descoperit ca salvator, acesta \u00ee\u0219i schimb\u0103 imediat rolul \u00een victim\u0103: \u201edac\u0103 ai \u0219ti tu c\u00e2te lucruri am sacrificat eu pentru tine&#8230;\u201d \u2013 expresie pe care probabil ai auzit-o \u0219i tu \u00een familia ta.<\/p>\n<p>Salvatorul \u00ee\u0219i poate lua un so\u021b pe care s\u0103 \u00eel priveasc\u0103 ca pe un proiect: \u201eso\u021bul este acum cioban manelist, dar eu \u00eel voi salva \u0219i \u00eel voi transforma \u00een prin\u021b\u201d. \u00ce\u021bi dai seama c\u0103 singura transformare va fi cea \u00een suferin\u021b\u0103 \u0219i eventual divor\u021b.<\/p>\n<p>Recuno\u0219ti modelul de salvator? Ai \u0219i tu acas\u0103 \u0219i la servici a\u0219a ceva? Care sunt cei trei salvatori de top \u00een via\u021ba ta?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 19px; padding-bottom: 38px;\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\"><a href=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"415\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/?attachment_id=415\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header.png\" data-orig-size=\"1024,493\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Stop Anxietate Header\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-300x144.png\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header.png\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-415 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"493\" srcset=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header.png 1024w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-300x144.png 300w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-768x370.png 768w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-250x120.png 250w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-550x265.png 550w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-800x385.png 800w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-374x180.png 374w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-623x300.png 623w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 4px; 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