{"id":529,"date":"2022-08-30T12:18:42","date_gmt":"2022-08-30T09:18:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/?p=529"},"modified":"2022-08-30T12:18:42","modified_gmt":"2022-08-30T09:18:42","slug":"episodul-17-triunghiul-dramei-victima","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/episodul-17-triunghiul-dramei-victima\/","title":{"rendered":"Episodul 17 &#8211; Triunghiul dramei &#8211; Victima"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"boldgrid-section\">\n<div class=\"container\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"boldgrid-section\">\n<div class=\"container\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"boldgrid-section\">\n<div class=\"container\">\n<div class=\"row\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"530\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/episodul-17-triunghiul-dramei-victima\/drama-triangle-victim\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Victim.png\" data-orig-size=\"960,720\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Drama Triangle &amp;#8211; Victim\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Victim-300x225.png\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Victim.png\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\" class=\"bg-img bg-img-rounded bg-img-border-thin aligncenter wp-image-530 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Victim.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"960\" height=\"720\" srcset=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Victim.png 960w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Victim-300x225.png 300w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Victim-768x576.png 768w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Victim-250x188.png 250w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Victim-550x413.png 550w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Victim-800x600.png 800w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Victim-240x180.png 240w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Victim-400x300.png 400w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Drama-Triangle-Victim-667x500.png 667w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 960px) 100vw, 960px\" \/><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 75px; padding-bottom: 75px;\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\">Ascult\u0103 acest episod aici, sau cite\u0219te mai jos<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-playlist wp-audio-playlist wp-playlist-light\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"wp-playlist-current-item\"><\/div>\n\t\t<audio controls=\"controls\" preload=\"none\" width=\"640\"\n\t\t\t><\/audio>\n\t<div class=\"wp-playlist-next\"><\/div>\n\t<div class=\"wp-playlist-prev\"><\/div>\n\t<noscript>\n\t<ol>\n\t\t<li><a href='https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Triunghiul-dramei-Victima.mp3'>Triunghiul dramei - Victima<\/a><\/li>\t<\/ol>\n\t<\/noscript>\n\t<script type=\"application\/json\" class=\"wp-playlist-script\">{\"type\":\"audio\",\"tracklist\":true,\"tracknumbers\":true,\"images\":false,\"artists\":false,\"tracks\":[{\"src\":\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Triunghiul-dramei-Victima.mp3\",\"type\":\"audio\/mpeg\",\"title\":\"Triunghiul dramei - Victima\",\"caption\":\"\",\"description\":\"\\\"Triunghiul dramei - Victima\\\". Released: 2022.\",\"meta\":{\"album\":\"Episodul 17\",\"year\":\"2022\",\"length_formatted\":\"6:01\"},\"image\":{\"src\":\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-includes\/images\/media\/audio.svg\",\"width\":48,\"height\":64},\"thumb\":{\"src\":\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-includes\/images\/media\/audio.svg\",\"width\":48,\"height\":64}}]}<\/script>\n<\/div>\n\t\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 75px; padding-bottom: 22px;\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\">Iat\u0103 c\u0103 am ajuns \u0219i la rolul cel mai important, pe care, to\u021bi cei implica\u021bi \u00een interac\u021biune ajung s\u0103 \u00eel joace mai devreme sau mai t\u00e2rziu. Victima a fost abuzat\u0103 de-a lungul anilor de c\u0103tre un abuzator (so\u021b, mam\u0103, soacr\u0103, colegi, \u0219efi, profesori, preot, etc) \u0219i \u0219i-a pierdut orice \u00eencredere de sine. Crede c\u0103 nu poate s\u0103 realizeze nimic, \u0219i astfel le d\u0103 putere salvatorului \u0219i abuzatorului, spun\u00e2ndu-\u0219i \u201eSalvatorule, salveaz\u0103-m\u0103!\u201d, respectiv \u201eAbuzatorule, ia deciziile pentru mine, pentru c\u0103 eu nu \u0219tiu cum \u00abtrebuie\u00bb, cum ar fi mai \u00abbine\u00bb\u201d.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Victima a fost at\u00e2t de mult abuzat\u0103, \u00eenc\u00e2t crede c\u0103 nu mai are nici un control asupra sa, sau asupra a nimic. Victima este la mila \u0219efului, so\u021bului, copiilor, soacrei, traficului, corpului, economiei, st\u0103rii vremii, st\u0103rii emo\u021bionale, etc. Dac\u0103 te g\u00e2nde\u0219ti pu\u021bin la persoanele cu anxietate, c\u00e2t de mult li se potrivesc aceste caracteristici?<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Pentru c\u0103 salvatorul \u0219i abuzatorul \u201e\u0219tiu\u201d ce \u201etrebuie\u201d, victima ascult\u0103 \u0219i urmeaz\u0103 ordinele \u0219i sfaturile lor. Victima \u00eenghite cu \u00eencredere pastila de algocalmin a salvatorului, chiar dac\u0103 nu ajut\u0103 cu nimic problemei sale. De asemenea, execut\u0103 cu obedien\u021b\u0103 profund\u0103 ordinele abuzatorului, chiar dac\u0103 nu \u00eei aduce fericire, ci dimpotriv\u0103, \u00eei d\u0103uneaz\u0103 la nivel con\u0219tient \u0219i incon\u0219tient.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Modul prin care atrage aten\u021bia, prin care \u00ee\u0219i c\u00e2\u0219tig\u0103 resursele, este&#8230; mila. Victima joac\u0103 incon\u0219tient rolul victimei, pentru c\u0103 crede c\u0103 nu are puterea de a \u00ee\u0219i atinge scopul, dar poate poate supravie\u021bui dac\u0103 se preface bleag\u0103, neamenin\u021b\u0103toare, pl\u00e2ng\u0103toare, mic\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103rac\u0103.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Victima se simte f\u0103r\u0103 putere, f\u0103r\u0103 speran\u021b\u0103, blocat\u0103 \u00een acest rol. Solu\u021biile pe termen scurt ale salvatorului o ad\u00e2ncesc mai mult \u00een acest rol. Fuga constant\u0103 de realitate, de rezolvarea problemelor \u00eenchid cercul eternei suferin\u021be.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"\">Moto-ul victimei este: \u201ece s\u0103 faci, n-ai ce s\u0103 faci\u201d!<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"\">Rolul victimei este cel mai important pentru noi, pentru c\u0103 acest rol se potrive\u0219te perfect persoanelor care sufer\u0103 de anxietate. Ele tr\u0103iesc mereu \u00een fric\u0103, fric\u0103 de lucrurile externe ca \u0219i economia, so\u021bul, serviciul, precum \u0219i de propriul corp \u0219i g\u00e2nduri \u2013 \u201ecred c\u0103 o iau razna, c\u0103 singura ie\u0219ire este sinuciderea\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Bine\u00een\u021beles c\u0103 solu\u021bia nu este sinuciderea, rolul de victim\u0103 este doar un rol pe care \u00eel juc\u0103m, nu este o identitate, sau o personalitate. Nu este scris c\u0103 asta suntem \u0219i asta vom fi mereu \u2013 dimpotriv\u0103, este foarte u\u0219or de a ie\u0219i din acest rol, dup\u0103 ce te educi cum s\u0103 faci asta.<\/p>\n<p>Prima oar\u0103 am descris cele trei roluri, ai identificat oamenii din via\u021ba ta care joac\u0103 aceste roluri la un nivel incon\u0219tient, apoi discut\u0103m despre cum s\u0103 ie\u0219i din fiecare rol \u2013 pentru c\u0103 nu juc\u0103m doar un singur rol, ci pe toate trei. S-ar putea s\u0103 joci un rol mai des, dar dac\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi \u00eendrep\u021bi aten\u021bia c\u0103tre interac\u021biuni \u0219i cuvinte, detectezi c\u0103 schimb\u0103m foarte repede pozi\u021biile.<\/p>\n<p>Recuno\u0219ti modelul de victim\u0103? Ai \u0219i tu acas\u0103 \u0219i la servici a\u0219a ceva? Care sunt cele trei victime de top \u00een via\u021ba ta?<\/p>\n<p class=\"\">Ok, felicit\u0103ri pentru efortul de azi, am ajuns la miezul problemei rela\u021biilor noastre: \u00een loc s\u0103 g\u0103sim sus\u021binere adev\u0103rat\u0103, respect \u0219i empatie, suntem \u00eenconjura\u021bi de psihopa\u021bi abuzatori \u0219i salvatori manipulatori. Persoanele care sufer\u0103 de anxietate joac\u0103 cel mai des rolul de victim\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 \u00eencredere de sine, f\u0103r\u0103 putere \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 speran\u021b\u0103. La baza distrugerii sociale reg\u0103sim pe vechiul nostru \u201eprieten\u201d, zeul Trebuie. Rolurile de putere se folosesc de \u201etrebuie\u201d \u0219i \u201ear trebui\u201d ca s\u0103 afunde victima \u0219i mai mult \u00een suferin\u021b\u0103. Acest lucru ia sf\u00e2r\u0219it acum \u2013 deja ai identificat problemele adev\u0103rate, acum urmeaz\u0103 s\u0103 le rezolv\u0103m.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ce\u021bi doresc o zi plin\u0103 de pace, ne \u00eent\u00e2lnim \u00een modulul urm\u0103tor, pe cur\u00e2nd!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 19px; padding-bottom: 38px;\">\n<div class=\"col-lg-12 col-md-12 col-xs-12 col-sm-12\">\n<p class=\"\"><a href=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"415\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/?attachment_id=415\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header.png\" data-orig-size=\"1024,493\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Stop Anxietate Header\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-300x144.png\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header.png\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-415 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"493\" srcset=\"https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header.png 1024w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-300x144.png 300w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-768x370.png 768w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-250x120.png 250w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-550x265.png 550w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-800x385.png 800w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-374x180.png 374w, https:\/\/stop-anxietate.ro\/articole\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Stop-Anxietate-Header-623x300.png 623w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"row\" style=\"padding-top: 4px; 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